Tuesday, December 18, 2012

Super Cop Vs. Super Advocate

I have remained silent regarding an important piece of information that has come to light within the last month or so.  Perhaps because I am still in a state of shock from the investigative report that was written by our local newspaper regarding the domestic violence advocate I was referred to by the hero (aka Super Cop)-- who helped me escape Prince Charming.

It's a story too far fetched to imagine nor even comprehend.  Yet, eerily similar to one written about Tania Head--"The Woman Who Wasn't There-The True Story of an Incredible Deception" by Robin Gaby Fisher and Angelo J. Gugliemo, Jr.  Tania Head was the woman who became a super star because of her astonishing account of her 9-11 experience in the World Trade Towers.  She had become an effective advocate for survivors of 9-11, with one small minor detail, she was a complete fraud.

Unbeknowest to me, over the past year our local domestic violence community (membership consisting of the DA's office, various police agencies, community service providers, etc.) had seriously begun to doubt the credentials and personal story of one very well known advocate.  "Her personal tale of victimization harrowing and her saga of survival inspiring", so said the Democrat and Chronicle.

Prior to the article being published, a fellow member of the advocacy group I belonged to, alerted me to the fact that Super Advocate's credentials including a Master's Degree in Public Administration in Criminal Justice were false.  The universities she claimed to have attended, had no record of her completing any degree.

The fabricated educational credentials were just the tip of the iceberg.  Elements of her story were unable to be confirmed or verified, despite her story of survival being one that would have been shall we say, "News Worthy".  Not a single piece of evidence was discovered by this investigative reporter.

Here is the link to the full article:

When I confronted Super Advocate directly prior to the article, she assured me she did indeed have an MPA in Criminal Justice and could prove it.   I gave her the benefit of the doubt regarding her fancy degrees despite what everyone else was telling me and she still lied.  In the beginning it didn't matter to me whether she had a GED or a PH.D.  However, her actions jeopardized important research projects pertaining to domestic violence.  Her response to me: "I just know that I feel betrayed by you."

Being friends with people like this is like being in a relationship with Prince Charming. Super Advocate was just as abusive on many levels.  She manipulated her way in the District Attorney's Office by pretending to have a Master's Degree in Public Administration in Criminal Justice.  And not a single person checked her credentials.

So who's job is it to protect the real victims from people like Super Advocate?  No one seems to want to hold her accountable.  Yet, they tell us to hold our abusers accountable for their actions.


  1. What a very sad story. Even more complicated because you considered her your friend. Remember you are stronger today than you were before. Hugs Beautiful Girl.

  2. That's called "assing the Buck". That's why everyone wants to keep it hush hust and under the rug. Shame on all of them for allowing HER to re-victimize victims. Becauset hat is exactly what she has done. And for those who support her, they are all just as fake and false as HER.

  3. That's called passing the buck. Shame on those continuing to support this woman. They allowed her to re-victimize victims. That is NOT acceptable on any level. And for those who continue to be her friend, they are as fake and false as HER.

  4. Sounds like they are perfect enablers. This is very disturbing. I am sorry you had to go through this.

  5. I think it's sad that she felt the need to embellish and exaggerate her story. It's also pathetic. It is hard enough for survivors to be believed in the first place. We definitely do not need liars making it more difficult for us. Merry Christmas R.

  6. People like this so-called Advocate will only continued to hurt people. She should be ashamed of herself and her behavior. But after reading the article it's clear to see she will not own up to her behavior. Let's hope she never has the opportunity to hurt another victim with her lies and manipulative behavior ever again.

  7. You have every right to be upset. This could have been preventable and shame on the people who refuse to hold her accountable.

  8. So glad you posted the original news article as I had not seen it. For all the people who think it's okay for this woman to blatantly lie about everything is just inconceivable. Think of how many victims she hurt with her lies! Those who participated in her charade are also to blame on some level. Keep writing and keep fighting for justice.